I was sitting here reflecting on my week and I am in awe of what God is doing in my life. I think back over my life to a time where I was in darkness, with very little hope of a bright future and running from my past as a stripper. As a dancer, there was very little sisterhood and cooperation amongst the women I worked with. There were girls who ran in cliques and it seemed like an counterproductive and ineffective strategy to maximize the time spent in the club. Every relationship seemed to come with a sense of competition. Bittersweet friendships ended with blindsiding betrayal that started with bickering over dollar bills. I adapted well to the concept of being a Lone Wolf because at the end of the day, working in a strip club as an exotic dancer does not require teamwork and I enjoyed working alone. But as I transitioned out of the club, I had to learn that no man (or woman) is an island.
The Bible says:
“Two are better than one because they have a more satisfying return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and does not have another to lift him up.” ECCLESIASTES 4:9-10 AMP
I fought depression and anxiety hard to go out and socialize. Going to networking event and conferences was distressing at first and made me uneasy but I became more comfortable each time I pitched my business and introduced my services to strangers who could potentially help me.
As I started to become comfortable with networking and making connections to build my business as an entrepreneur but I discovered that same clique mentality when attending some conferences that promised “empowerment” and “sisterhood”. I really didn’t realize how all of my years as a stripper allowed me to see the signs of the fake and phony folks before situations fully manifested. I avoided some interactions, confrontations and potential business disasters but was becoming a little discouraged by the weak-willed who attempted to prey on women with passion for their mission.
I took a break and went into consecration and asked God to redirect and connect me with people who were supposed to help me with the assignment the Almighty gave me which is to build His kingdom through empowerment of the knowledge of His Word. Shortly after coming out of consecration, I was connected to different women. Women who were driven, confident and successful and wanted to bring other women onto their level of spiritual knowledge and soulful success.
Last month, I found out about an event called Meet the Authors that will take place October 14, 2017 in Atlanta, GA and contacted by blogger, entrepreneur, and author, Zeta Joel of IAmZetaJ.com, to see if I could participate. She promptly contacted me and I was informed of an opportunity to speak! I felt the faithfulness of God in this news and I thanked Him for answering my prayer. But something else happened.
I have been involved with events before where people met, spoke, sold their wares and went home. The facilitator of this event did something I have never been a part of. I was invited to dinner by Zeta J at Two Urban Licks located in Atlanta, GA. The menu was superb, offering exquisite fare from the popular Salmon Chips to Scallops and Grits.
I was super, duper, turbo excited to meet her and a few other women who were also invited to what I learned was The First Sacred Society Dinner. I was pleasantly surprised by the positivity and electric chemistry that sparked between the 9 female strangers who were enterpreneurs, authors and bloggers. We discussed topics ranging from how to cope with the issue of lack of support from family and friends in business to what should be the requirements and qualifications of a good spouse. There was no immaturity, rudeness or grandstanding which was always prevalent in many of the previous social events I have observed. Everyone contributed to the conversation and we all immediately followed each other on social media to ensure we support each others’ movements and endeavors.
It was refreshing to be in the presence of women who were eager to learn from each other and seek real collaboration. I was absolutely dazzled to converge with such dynamic divas who understood the struggles of being vulnerable to exclusions of network cliques which only breeds unhealthy and unhelpful competition and not compounding our efforts in collaboration. The Sacred Society Dinner allowed me to experience a night of sisterhood and celebration of each woman’s success thus far. As we all talked, we each expressed the importance of having a connection with the Creator. I appreciated this night so much because of the sincere desire and effort to be authentically connected to each woman, her vision and her upcoming projects and events.
Zeta Joel’s enthusiasm about connecting was contagious and led me to share the details of each woman who were in attendance of this magical night. I’m look forward to the next dinner! Follow all of these phenomenal women on Instagram and visit each website!
~Zeta Joel has a blog called Get Inspired, the author of 2 books: “Parenting with No Bra” and “Like Father, Like Son”. Follow her on IG @IAmZetaJ
~Quionah Wingfield is founder of Cool Moms Dance Too Inc., publisher and health and wellness advocate. Visit http://www.Coolmomsdancetoo.com. Follow her on IG @CoolMaqui
~Ashleigh Guice is a speaker, life coach, author of “How to X Your Ex” and writes a blog called “Single Woman Chronicles. Visit her site http://www.SingleWomanChronicles.com and follow on IG @SingleWomanChronicles
~London Bridges is one half of The Ceo Goddesses where she is a beauty entrepreneur specializing in glam make up and virgin Brazilian Hair. She is located in Norcross, GA. Follow her on IG @LondonBridges4You_Hair and @TheCeoGoddess
~Daneisha Smith is a certified payroll professional and contributes to Zeta J’s blog, Get Inspired, as a lover of fashion and beauty blogger. Follow her on IG @OfficiallyChic
~Tinzley Bradford is a media influencer, radio host, relationship coach and author of “The Settle-Free Dating Method for Women.” Her book is available online at Barnes and Nobles and Amazon. Follow her on IG @Tinzl
~Precious Fraizer is a wellness expert, women’s empowerment movement pusher and business blogger. Visit http://www.linktr.ee/rockyourreality. Follow on IG @RockYourReality
~Shanna Jefferson is a psychotherapist, life coach, speaker, blogger, entrepreneur and author of “33 Tools For Success”. Visit http://www.ShannaJeffereson.com. Follow her on IG @ShannaJefferson. She is also the other half of @TheCEOGoddess
~Sayuri Smith is an entrepreneur, blogger and author of A.Stray and Scriptures For Strippers. She is also the Care Team Coodinator for http://www.4Sarah.net, an organization dedicated to helping women transition out of sex work and assist victims of sex trafficking. Visit http://www.ScripturesForStrippers.com and follow her on IG @SayuriSmith