In my determination to not be the recluse I once was, I have been making an effort to get out of the house and find good, clean fun with women are unashamed of their relationship with God. In my search, I stumbled upon this awesome network of women who are not only believers in God, but movers and shakers in the Body of Christ! After perusing my Eventbrite app, I discovered a woman named Tamara Diahann. She hosted an event called The God Girl Expo in Lithonia, GA. Mrs. Diahann is one of the biggest bubbliest, most positive people I’ve been around in a while. She is also the Community of Christian Women’s Founder with a mission to assemble women of God to execute the mission, vision and purpose of kingdom business.
I made some great connections with women who are operating in their purpose and executing the mission of building the body of Christ. I’ve encountered a beautiful woman named Aqueela Maddox, The Inspirationalist, who inspires others with her transparent testimony and highlights redemption, forgiveness and reinforcing the importance of practical application of the Word of God to one’s life. She is also a marketing expert hosting a workshop on how to “Brand Your Brand”.
I met a woman another woman name Corendis Hardy, owner of Avant-Garde Books where she offers uplifting literature for African American children. She will be hosting The African American Booklovers Expo in November 2017.
The Community of Christian Women hosts 2 recurring monthly events. The Coffee and Conversations Brunch happens every 2nd Saturday from 10 am until 12 noon at the Laughing Goat Cafe located in downtown Decatur, GA.
The God Girl Gathering is a fun girl’s night which takes place at the House of Victory Christian Church located at 4542 Evans Mills Rd. Lithonia, GA 30038. Festivities begin at 7 pm until 11pm every 4th Friday of the month. There was tasty treats, entertaining games, loud laughter and Godly conversation! I was so happy I brought my sister and we both look forward to the next God Girl Event!
I encourage you to mark your calendars and check out these events to include some non-judgmental fellowship with females of faith. Check out the website http://www.HelloGodGirl.com for more info! I look forward to meeting you there!!!
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On my journey to experiencing God through fellowship with His people, I have come to learn about different Bible studies, church services and events with the purpose of drawing people nearer to our Creator. My calendar is full of prayer calls that happen over the phone, evening Bible studies and the different times church services start for Sunday morning service.
There are recurring events that happen every other week or monthly that I plan to go to but I sometimes lose track of time or get the event days mixed up. This was certainly the case with the catching up with The Bridge KickBack, a millenial-led church service that takes place at Nancy’s Pizza in Atlanta, Georgia every other Monday at 7 pm.
I discovered this service after first falling in love with the gospel trap music artist named Glo and his album, “Trapping Out the Church”. I absolutely loved every song I heard (and added to my Lit for the Lord playlist on YouTube) but my favorites are “On the Water” and “By the Twos”. I had to post part of a song on my instagram page and found GLO to tag him. I was excited to learn that he lived in metro Atlanta and actually did a song, “Worship for The Hood”, that shouted out my old neighbor in Riverdale, GA. After doing a little bit more investigating, I saw that he was a part of a movement called The Bridge KickBack where young people gathered together to have praise and worship and uplifting words about Jesus Christ after playing some fun games and having some gut busting laughs.
Last week, they also had a very unique online event called the Unapologetically Me Conference that included panel discussions, testimonies and inspiration from different people from various races, backgrounds and lifestyles. They discussed your identity in Christ and image versus reality among other things starting on Instagram and leading to Youtube for the full video. I was blessed by this insight and appreciated the testimonies shared! This made me vigilant about keeping up with and catching the date for the next bi-weekly event so I can finally experience this event in person.
My youngest sister is a bonafide millenial and I immediately thought of her when I saw the clips of people talking about their experiences with the Holy Spirit during this unadulterated, unique encounter with God. I was excited to plan to go to this event with her. My children came as well. My daughter enjoyed dancing to the familiar gospel trap music and my son dominated the Connect 4 table. We also enjoyed some authentic, delicious Chicago-style deep dish pizza that didn’t break the bank!
I was beyond excited to experience the spirit-filled altar call where the ladies gathered and were encouraged to embrace, pray with or intercede for each other. There was a real sense of sisterhood and family in the room as we all lifted up the name of our Lord together. I was on mommy duty with my baby girl but God still afforded me an opportunity to pray with a lady in the back of the room. She was eventually encouraged enough to go to the front of the room and join the altar call.
There was a round table discussion and a panel discussion on different spiritual topics like insecurity and identity in God. I was amazed at how the Holy Spirit came in as we Milly Wopped and did the Running Man for the Lord. I am not easily impressed but my expectations were definitely exceeded as I didn’t expect the move of God to be so strong. I listen to gospel rap a lot but I now know that the Holy Spirit will visit any place where it is welcome. I love praising, worshipping, glorifying and loving on the Lord and it felt good to be in the company of so many people who were on the same accord. There was no judgment, negative vibes or quenched spirit in this place…Praise God! I totally recommend this event to anyone who wants to invite someone to church but know they won’t show up to an actual church building. It is clearly an awesome alternative to Bible study that will keep you engaged, entertained and energized! I am grateful that the folks at The Bridge KickBack for allow themselves to be a great representative of what the church should be, people who bring God WHEREVER they go and are unapologetic as they do it!
This is a blurry picture but I was excited to take this selfie with my favorite local gospel trap artist, GLO! I had an absolute blast at The Bridge Kickback! I look forward to the next event and invite anyone in Atlanta who would love to experience the spirit of God OUTSIDE the 4 walls of church. Be sure sure to check out my homeboy and brother in Christ, GLO. Follow him on Instagram @Gloman1. Make sure you stay tuned to find out about the next event by following @TheBridgeKickback at Nancy’s Chicago Pizza located at 265 Ponce De Leon Ave NE A, Atlanta, GA 30308. Hope to see you soon! Follow me on @SayuriSmith to learn about unique positive events in Atlanta and beyond! Be Blessed!
As a woman attempts to find herself on another path through life’s journey, she may experience desperation. Many people imagine that in order for a woman to become a stripper, she had to be desperate in the first place. Many times that’s not the case… it wasn’t for me. As a child, I loved dancing and wanted to dance for money when I grew up. It was very simple to me but of course, it wouldn’t be that simple.
I did grow up and became a dancer in a strip club. When I came in contact with customers who thought they could take advantage of me or exploit my position as a stripper, it disturbed me very much. Customers who tried to make deals or negotiate prices of dance performances because they assumed I was desperate for money. This was extremely offensive and was one of the worst parts of dancing for me. I wasn’t desperate for money but I was there to earn it. I soon started to recognize how the devil attempts to use the spirit of despair and desperation against strippers.
For me, dancing was supposed to be a lucrative, fun, care-free endeavor that allowed me to showcase my ability to dance that I later learned would also require me to expose my body. Those two things were hard enough to do but when the predatory customers and even some times club management impose their sexual desires on dancers based on their warped, disgusting sociaopathic personalities, the job turns into something totally different. It is important to note that being desperate is the last thing you want to be as an exotic dancer in a strip club.
Although I know being a desperate dancer is dangerous, it didn’t prevent me from becoming desperate. Coming to work everyday and dancing my heart out was a dream come true at first but then it began to wear down on me and I was desperate to get escape. All of my other goals and aspirations were put on the back burner and dancing was the only thing I had. I had dropped out of court reporting school which was another one of my dreams and also was my ticket out of the club. I scrambled to become anything other than a dancer and became desperate to escape the club. I would have panic attacks when it was time for work and I was desperate for peace in my mind. I was desperate for a vision for my life. I was desperate to be free from spiritual weakness and emotional instability. No matter how desperate I got, I never saw the devil as an ally. I didn’t turn on myself and allow the devil to use me against myself. I had negative self-talk and put myself down a lot and realized the devil was making me punish myself but I didn’t allow the devil to convince me to use hard drugs and alcohol as an escape.
Let us test and examine our ways, and let us return to the Lord. Lamentations 3:40
I was reading the Bible and trying to be encouraged but it just wasn’t working. I was prescribed pain medication for my debilitating chronic back pain and was afraid I would start abusing my medication so I would only take half of the pills. I knew I was trying to kill my pain but the desperation was causing depression, which brought isolation, which brought loneliness and eventually a spirit of suicide came over me.
When I finally got into a church, I was relieved. The pastor was prophetic, which means he spoke the Word of God into the future of the congregation. The words spoken over my life were invaluable and that’s when I learned how to implement the strategy and power of the spiritual weapon (the Bible) and fight spiritual warfare. I became desperate for God and that desperation saved my life. This negative word became the activation of my faith. My desperation for a way of escape from my financial dependency on the strip club to provide basic needs for me and my young son. I was desperate for God to reveal his PLAN for my life. It was my decision to start working in the strip club and God had protected and preserved my life through it all. I was grateful that I had been blessed enough to live my dream as a dancer, I would never have to wonder what would have been. I was grateful to God that I had the experience I had but I was sure that this lifestyle wasn’t the PURPOSE for my life.
Many people debate with me about bringing God into the life of a stripper but I DO NOT CARE!!!!!! NOBODY can tell me God’s hand has not been on my life…or any other exotic dancer’s life. I refused to allow the devil to convince me I was desperate inside the club. But the truth was, I became depressed and felt myself slowly deteriorating and self-destructing.
I had never paid attention to denominations of churches but with this being a prophetic ministry, the altar calls literally spoke life into me. At the end of each sermon, the pastor would ask if anyone needed prayer and I went to the altar every week. I didn’t have to say anything. These people just prayed and laid hands on me. I always felt a little bit lighter as I held on to each positive, prophetic word spoken over my life. I remember one time the pastor’s wife said, “You will help thousands of women. You are an overcomer. Your story will set so many free.” My life was falling apart as I had anxiety attacks and dealt with bouts of very deep depression from my emotional and spiritual exhaustion from being a dancer. To this day, those words ring in my mind and I am floored at how good God has been to me. I began to read the Bible, fast, pray and seek instruction from God through meditation. I began to hear from God and follow His directions. It was a horribly hard road to ride but I eventually did leave the club. I got another job. But that wasn’t the end. My desperation for change and living in the purpose of God made my journey in my faith walk possible. I didn’t want to go backwards and the only thing that kept me forward was my desperation for a new lifestyle.
“…I am the Lord your God, Who teaches you to profit, Who leads you in the way that you should go.” Isaiah 48:17 AMPC
Nobody ever aspires to be a crack whore, alcoholic, or prostitute but devil-inspired desperation is the gateway to these dead-end traps. I pray that anyone who is working as a dancer, prostitute, escort or WHATEVER turn to GOD today. He made you for a purpose that you are NOT fulfilling. The good news is He will accept you back. Let your desperation work for you and not against you. He is waiting for you. If you want God to speak into your life, get in the Word of GOD. He will meet your needs better than any man, club, pimp or “friend” ever could. Get to the source! God is your supplier… The REAL plug!
“And my God will liberally supply (fill to the full) your every need according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19
Last week I saw a movie that has beautifully illustrated my journey of transition from the lifestyle of an adult entertainer. There have been so many versions and interpretations to the popular and critically-acclaimed musical, Les Miserables. The fact that this production is in the “musical” genre has kept me from having any interest in seeing it. When I came across this particular version, I let my guard down because I couldn’t see Liam Neeson or Uma Thurman belting out a whole movie. I am so glad I gave it a chance because this genius piece had no singing. This movie was literally the most cathartic, encouraging and gut wretching thing I’ve seen in a while.
Les Miserables illustrated why there are people in the world who rule with an iron fist. These people have heavy-handed judgement and hatred in their hearts and attached stigmatising labels to brand others socially with an inescapable spiritual death sentence. This movie contained prostitution, desperation, incarceration and redemption. I don’t want to spoil the movie for anyone who is interested but this movie was amazing to me because of the focus on the concept of redemption from a person’s past, protecting loved ones from a bad past and how society labels and condemns people, trapping them in a time warp where whatever they do, they can never live down their past mistakes. There may be times where the past will stalk, threaten and bind up a person, even if they make peace with it. Only until a person surrenders to, own and embrace their past, with no need for revenge or having feelings of resentment and shame will they remove the power and negativity of the label.
This movie reminded me of a few concepts the Bible teaches us about the price Jesus paid for anyone to start new in him. For anyone in transition, I want you to know God wants to extend His hand to you but you will not be the same. When you get the opportunity to start over, you will choose your new actions for your new life. You are no longer subjected to responding the same way you did before. When one of the characters did something wrong and blamed it on the label the world saw him as, someone told him he was redeemed through Christ. We are instructed to renew our minds and in this film, I saw how a new beginning was embraced and a new creature lived but still had to suffer for the actions of the old creature. I was moved by the necessary loyalty to the decision to change even when some situations threatened life itself.
“Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs forth; do you not perceive and know it and will you not give heed to it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” Isaiah 43:18-19 AMPC
One of the other concepts that hit home with me was protecting someone from their past so they can live a label free life. Protecting the innocence of children, family or even a spouse is a difficult and taxing task on the relationship. The sacrifice and protection it takes to ensure someone has the opportunity to have the advantage of an untarnished name is crushingly painful as it requires the installation of secrets and strict adherence to rules nobody else will ever understand without the threat of exposure. Once the exposure happens, the relationship is at the mercy of society, the results can be devastating if one does not know their identity in Christ. This film also showed how the freedom one feels when the past is finally faced, owned and the consequences are faced with dignity and true repentance can be one of the ultimate lifetime achievement. There is redemption in God.
“For I will restore healing to you, and I will heal your wounds, says the Lord, because they have called you an outcast.” Jeremiah 30:17
I want every dancer, especially one in transition, to watch this movie. Watching the characters in this movie struggle to etch out a life on the brink of society’s acceptance of their humanity was sometimes hard to watch and triggered me with feelings of depression, anger, despair and reminded me of the cold isolation I endured during the beginning stages of my transition. As each dancer watches, I want her to remember that there is freedom on the other side of her struggle as long as there is a strong will to become dedicated and determined to truly allow herself to be organically renewed. Another key is to humbly endure life.
For me, reconnecting with God through his Holy Word was a huge factor in reconstructing my identity while in transition to a life without the strip club. Get your copy of Scriptures for Strippers from Amazon or from http://www.ScripturesforStrippers.com in order to learn how to apply The Holy Word of God to the situation you are in right now as an exotic dancer. Your life will improve when God’s plan for your life is implemented. God will give you peace in the middle of the storm if you let Him.
There is a viral video of U.S. representative for California’s 43rd congressional district Maxine Waters where she is requesting an answer to a specific question and when the answer was not given, she repeated the phrase “Reclaiming my Time” over and over again. As I watched her speak, it made me think of all the times I have allowed others to waste mine and I realized I need to be more like Auntie Maxine.
When working at the club, I was extremely efficient in spending the appropriate amount of time with a customer to maximize profitability. If a patron was not paying me to talk, I was being paid to dance. If I wasn’t being paid to dance, I was getting paid somewhere else. It was simple but unfortunately life isn’t that cut and dried. *sad face* I am currently working on a fictional novel based on my life, Dancability, which has me reflecting on how I have spent my time. This is mostly the result of having a huge issue with procrastination.
I remember working with ladies who would come to work with astronomical nightly quotas because they had a bill due in the next few days. They needed to make $800 that night or their rent would be late or would be in jeopardy of getting a visit from the repo man. I watched these ladies and made a point to slowly save up my money to avoid adding anxiety to the already stressful job of dealing with drunken men all night. Ugh. Because I planned some things and avoided certain issues, I could not see how I was procrastinating in other areas.
As a part of my new lifestyle, I have implemented a new way of living which starts with the concept of reclaiming my time. There are so many different things God has shown me I must accomplish but I keep finding “good reasons” to put them on the back burner. I am an ex-exotic dancer who has been out of the game for 2 years but still consider myself to be in transition because of the many changes I still need to make to be the new and improved me. After working in the strip club for so long, I have become accustomed to fast money. I could wake up with $60 and go to sleep with $600. There was no waiting for pay day or a pay check. I got cash in my hand after dancing my heart out. I could put off working all week if I wanted and still pay my bills on time. I would have to rest up in order to work so hard so what some people called procrastination, I called getting rested. Procrastination has taken a different form now that I do not dance anymore and it has been hard to pinpoint. I balance so many different items on my plate, I see I have to really manage my time and not stretch myself too thin because procrastination can come in looking like juggling. When you juggle, you have to divide your attention and when you look away from something, you have to set a date to return to it. When you don’t, it won’t get done and you will start a bunch of projects and finish none. You may sign up to help someone when you need that time for yourself. You will need to reclaim your time.
I hated to admit my issue with procrastination and my inability to properly prioritize my time. There are so many things I would like to accomplish that I now see that it is very important to strengthen this weakness to be victorious in my own life. In the back of my mind, I put things off just knowing they will get done (just like knowing my bills would be paid when I worked at the club). Working at the strip club empowered me to have complete control of my time which ironically hindred me from making the most of it because I always mismangaged it. Not working to a set schedule and being able to work whenever I wanted fed into my procrastination of taking care of less desirable tasks.
I find that the more I talk to God, the more focused my thoughts are and waste less energy. When your steps are ordered by God, you can do more with less.
“The steps of a [good and righteous] (wo)man are directed and established by the Lord, And He delights in his or her way [and blesses his path]. PSALM 37:23 AMP
Setting goals and deadlines for myself is essential to marking things off my to-do list and pushing procrastination out of the picture. I foucs on this scripture that tells me to seek guidance when I get off track and reminds me to get back on task. My list “counsels” me about what I need to be doing.
“Where there is no [wise, intelligent] guidance, the people fall [and go off course like a ship without a helm], But in the abundance of [wise and godly] counselors there is victory.” PROVERBS 11:14 AMP
“Let us test and examine our ways, And let us return to the Lord.” LAMENTATIONS 3:40 AMP
It is important to know that taking baby steps are the way to accomplish your goals. In the Focusing on Goals and Purpose chapter of Scriptures for Strippers, there is a place to list short term and long term goals. If you need a indepth plan of action, turn to page 289 and get busy filling in your overall goals, supporting goals, the action taken and the result. Whenever I am having issues with prioritizing projects, I ask God. He answered with this.
“But all things should be done with regard to decency and propriety and in an orderly fashion.” 1 Corinthians 14:40 AMPC
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Some believe that women who work as adult entertainers are keeping themselves from God by participating in an obviously sinful profession and should not find God until they abandon their job. Others believe that God will not hear the prayers and cries of these women who are hurting on the inside and want peace, love and joy. Inquiring minds ask about the purpose of Scriptures for Strippers, the first and only devotional for adult entertainers is but what they really want to know is whether I am condemning or encouraging women with this book. That is a fair question and I quickly let anyone know that only God can judge a person and I understand my duty as a child of God, a member of the Kingdom of God and a witness to the power of God. I am supposed to give my testimony so that others may be free. It is not my job to “condemn” her but many think when I disregard her profession, I fail her. I personally understand every unmentionable battle because I used to be an exotic dancer myself. I was a dancer at for 15 years off and on and I totally get the struggle. If anyone agrees that I should be harshly admonishing and critcizing these women, I’d like to take this time to remind them of what the Bible says:
“Brothers (and sisters), if anyone is caught in any sin, you who are spiritual [that is, you who are responsive to the guidance of the Spirit] are to restore such a person in a spirit of gentleness [not with a sense of superiority or self-righteousness], keeping a watchful eye on yourself, so that you are not tempted as well.” GALATIANS 6:1 AMP
At the end of 2014, I left the club for the second time and was very despondent. I was isolated, depressed and chronically worried. I was so weary from working in the strip club to support myself and my toddler son. I tossed my dance bag in a dumpster at a carwash and just quit going to work. I told God I was done with that because it was depressing, draining and was driving a huge wedge between me and anything I wanted. I went to church and the preacher said there is a scripture for every struggle. He gave us an assignment to go home and make a list of scriptures for every weak area of our life.
I went home and made a list and Scriptures for Strippers was born. I know it is my duty to share what God has revealed to me because the Bible says:
“So do not be ashamed to testify about our Lord or about me His prisoner, but with me take your share of suffering for the gospel [continue to preach regardless of the circumstances], in accordance with the power of God [for His power is invincible] 2 TIMOTHY 1:8 AMP
Here are the 3 main purposes and points of Scriptures for Strippers:
Everyone deserves a relationship with God.“Come close to God [with a contrite heart] and He will come close to you.” JAMES 4:8 AMP
As a dancer, it is essential to have a relationship with God to guard against the demons that lurk in strip clubs. Many people regard the actual dancers as the demons who attempt to seduce men and destroy families by leading men astray when the fact of the matter is there are lost young women who seek to deal with spiritual deficiency and brokeness by becoming dancers. Other women dance for financial gain without weighing the the spiritual, mental and emotional costs. Honestly, there is no real way to know exactly what these women actually deal with unless you have been in the environment of the strip club personally. Having a working knowledge of what the Word of God actually says about equips these women to fight spiritual battles. Working as a stripper makes a woman vulnerableand exposed not just physically. Although, many may think of a prayer in the strip club is blasphemy the Word of God says: “The eyes of the Lord are in every place.” PROVERBS 15:3 AMP “If I ascend to heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in Sheol (the nether world, the place of the dead), behold, You are there.”PSALM 139:8 AMP
To provide a source of hope and protection. “…that the Lord your God may show us the way in which we should walk and the thing that we should do.” JEREMIAH 42:3 AMP
Studying the Word of God reveals what to hope and trust in. While working in a strip club, women are approached by different spirits seeking various things. These women need spiritual protection as men (and women) come in to exploit mental, emotional and spiritual immaturity. There are women with abandonment issues, low self-esteem, anger, and unforgiveness in their hearts which makes them dangerous to themselves and even the people around them at any given moment. Strippers experience a high rate of rejection and my develop in a people pleaser. It is very beneficial to a woman who works in this industry to know what God has said about her and her future to combat the negative self-image that develops as a result of becoming a stripper. Someone needs to tell the young women that the Bible says: “The Lord will make you the head (leader) and not the tail (follower); and you will be above only, and you will not be beneath, if you listen and pay attention to the commandments of the Lord your God, which I am commanding you today, to observe them carefully.” DEUTERONOMY 28:13 AMP. Scriptures for Strippers is not used for judging and condemning. Working as a dancer is hard enough! I read Psalm 27 everyday before going inside the club for protection and I have never been harmed!
To help women get to a place where they can discover their purpose. When the glamour is gone and facts of the lifestyle trump the fantasy and fallicy, depression and desperation can suddenly take hold of a woman who works as a stripper. A dancer who is desperate is dangerous to herself and others. She may think of robbery, murder or prostitution when she has endured nights where she did not make her quota or thinks of transitioning. So it is safe to say that after dancing for a while, many dancers may attempt to concoct an exit strategy. These are extremely difficult to execute without a strong sense of disclipline and laser sharp focus on her goals. The fast money is life changing and it is extremely difficult to replace the income she has become accustomed to generating. Only God, the Creator of Heaven and Earth, can reveal His plan for her life. This is the other reason I do not tell dancers to stop working in the club. After she has her own personal relationship with God, she will begin to behave differently and will be able to see a new plan develop for her life. Everyone is created for a reason and purpose.
“for He delivered us and saved us and called us with a holy calling [a calling that leads to a consecrated life–a life set apart–a life of purpose], not because of our works [or because of any personal merit–we could do nothing to earn this], but because of His own purpose and grace [His amazing, undeserved favor] which was granted to us in Christ Jesus before the world began [eternal ages ago],2 TIMOTHY 1:3, 9 AMP
It is important to remember that NO MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE DONE, you can call on God. Only the devil will present things and ideas to steal, kill and destroy. Remember that God has a plan for your future. Do not give up on yourself. When you feel like you have hit rock bottom, call on the chief cornerstone and let Jesus Christ lead you. God will hear your prayers and cries. Don’t take my word for it. The Bible says:
“~‘For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,’ says the Lord , ‘plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster to give you a future and a hope. ~‘Then you will call on Me and you will come and pray to Me, and I will hear [your voice] and I will listen to you. ~‘Then [with a deep longing] you will seek Me and require Me [as a vital necessity] and [you will] find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. ~‘I will be found by you,’ says the Lord , ‘and I will restore your fortunes and I will [free you and] gather you–“JEREMIAH 29:11-14, 16 AMP
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I was sitting here reflecting on my week and I am in awe of what God is doing in my life. I think back over my life to a time where I was in darkness, with very little hope of a bright future and running from my past as a stripper. As a dancer, there was very little sisterhood and cooperation amongst the women I worked with. There were girls who ran in cliques and it seemed like an counterproductive and ineffective strategy to maximize the time spent in the club. Every relationship seemed to come with a sense of competition. Bittersweet friendships ended with blindsiding betrayal that started with bickering over dollar bills. I adapted well to the concept of being a Lone Wolf because at the end of the day, working in a strip club as an exotic dancer does not require teamwork and I enjoyed working alone. But as I transitioned out of the club, I had to learn that no man (or woman) is an island.
The Bible says:
“Two are better than one because they have a more satisfying return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and does not have another to lift him up.” ECCLESIASTES 4:9-10 AMP
I fought depression and anxiety hard to go out and socialize. Going to networking event and conferences was distressing at first and made me uneasy but I became more comfortable each time I pitched my business and introduced my services to strangers who could potentially help me.
As I started to become comfortable with networking and making connections to build my business as an entrepreneur but I discovered that same clique mentality when attending some conferences that promised “empowerment” and “sisterhood”. I really didn’t realize how all of my years as a stripper allowed me to see the signs of the fake and phony folks before situations fully manifested. I avoided some interactions, confrontations and potential business disasters but was becoming a little discouraged by the weak-willed who attempted to prey on women with passion for their mission.
I took a break and went into consecration and asked God to redirect and connect me with people who were supposed to help me with the assignment the Almighty gave me which is to build His kingdom through empowerment of the knowledge of His Word. Shortly after coming out of consecration, I was connected to different women. Women who were driven, confident and successful and wanted to bring other women onto their level of spiritual knowledge and soulful success.
Last month, I found out about an event called Meet the Authors that will take place October 14, 2017 in Atlanta, GA and contacted by blogger, entrepreneur, and author, Zeta Joel of IAmZetaJ.com, to see if I could participate. She promptly contacted me and I was informed of an opportunity to speak! I felt the faithfulness of God in this news and I thanked Him for answering my prayer. But something else happened.
I have been involved with events before where people met, spoke, sold their wares and went home. The facilitator of this event did something I have never been a part of. I was invited to dinner by Zeta J at Two Urban Licks located in Atlanta, GA. The menu was superb, offering exquisite fare from the popular Salmon Chips to Scallops and Grits.
I was super, duper, turbo excited to meet her and a few other women who were also invited to what I learned was The First Sacred Society Dinner. I was pleasantly surprised by the positivity and electric chemistry that sparked between the 9 female strangers who were enterpreneurs, authors and bloggers. We discussed topics ranging from how to cope with the issue of lack of support from family and friends in business to what should be the requirements and qualifications of a good spouse. There was no immaturity, rudeness or grandstanding which was always prevalent in many of the previous social events I have observed. Everyone contributed to the conversation and we all immediately followed each other on social media to ensure we support each others’ movements and endeavors.
It was refreshing to be in the presence of women who were eager to learn from each other and seek real collaboration. I was absolutely dazzled to converge with such dynamic divas who understood the struggles of being vulnerable to exclusions of network cliques which only breeds unhealthy and unhelpful competition and not compounding our efforts in collaboration. The Sacred Society Dinner allowed me to experience a night of sisterhood and celebration of each woman’s success thus far. As we all talked, we each expressed the importance of having a connection with the Creator. I appreciated this night so much because of the sincere desire and effort to be authentically connected to each woman, her vision and her upcoming projects and events.
Zeta Joel’s enthusiasm about connecting was contagious and led me to share the details of each woman who were in attendance of this magical night. I’m look forward to the next dinner! Follow all of these phenomenal women on Instagram and visit each website!
~Zeta Joel has a blog called Get Inspired, the author of 2 books: “Parenting with No Bra” and “Like Father, Like Son”. Follow her on IG @IAmZetaJ
~Quionah Wingfield is founder of Cool Moms Dance Too Inc., publisher and health and wellness advocate. Visit http://www.Coolmomsdancetoo.com. Follow her on IG @CoolMaqui
~Ashleigh Guice is a speaker, life coach, author of “How to X Your Ex” and writes a blog called “Single Woman Chronicles. Visit her site http://www.SingleWomanChronicles.com and follow on IG @SingleWomanChronicles
~London Bridges is one half of The Ceo Goddesses where she is a beauty entrepreneur specializing in glam make up and virgin Brazilian Hair. She is located in Norcross, GA. Follow her on IG @LondonBridges4You_Hair and @TheCeoGoddess
~Daneisha Smith is a certified payroll professional and contributes to Zeta J’s blog, Get Inspired, as a lover of fashion and beauty blogger. Follow her on IG @OfficiallyChic
~Tinzley Bradford is a media influencer, radio host, relationship coach and author of “The Settle-Free Dating Method for Women.” Her book is available online at Barnes and Nobles and Amazon. Follow her on IG @Tinzl
~Shanna Jefferson is a psychotherapist, life coach, speaker, blogger, entrepreneur and author of “33 Tools For Success”. Visit http://www.ShannaJeffereson.com. Follow her on IG @ShannaJefferson. She is also the other half of @TheCEOGoddess