Although I would love to announce I have everything the way I want and everything I’ve ever done had been a huge success, I can’t. I have tried to do many different professions but have yet to land where I have a sure financial footing. As an adult entertainer attempting to secure financially sufficient employment and merge more into the mainstream society, I must admit how very hard it is adjusting to the slow pace of bureaucracy and procedures. Going back to school, on the job training and other obstacles discourage women who are attempting to transition out of the strip club without depending on a man (or woman) to provide necessities for her. Any girl looking to change her lifestyle must slow down and focus on baby taking steps.
Most dancers I know move fast. They talk fast and make quick decisions (be it right or wrong). It mostly comes from working in a fast-paced environment. The money comes fast, spends fast and can be looked forward to coming again. For these reasons, I believe it is so hard for some women to transition from making fast (strip club) money to slow (payroll) money.
The first thing a transitioning girl must do is BUDGET. Learning how to prioritize spending is an essential discipline to practice a new life style is the most important because needs are covered before wants. This can be a painful reality for girls who are used to spending the money they plan to make again later that night. If you’re not dancing in the clubs, chances are you are making money doing something else. Not much else pays as fast, legally, anyway.
While venturing into a new path, it is important to understand the concept of baby steps. Babies are born not being able to do much of anything for themselves. Then a little time goes by and they learn to sit up alone. This gives them a chance to observe and evaluate their environment. More time goes by and the baby learns to crawl . The baby can be a explorer, use more senses by touching and traveling to and fro. Babies get into lots of danger during this time but are safe to explore as long as a loving, caring parent is around to ensure the baby doesn’t hurt herself while venturing out into the world.
When babies learn to walk, she uses everything she has learned through observation, experience to do something different than what she had been. It is natural to want to push to be more. Most babies never become complacent with crawling and never try to walk. Pulling up and standing up are the first feat to tackle. Taking steps forward takes concentration, balance and coordination. All things a baby must master before getting to that point.
As we transition into more formal methods of employment from adult entertainment, it is important to remember that you persevered once before in life. Aspiring to be more than a stripper is good but requires diligence, discipline and dedication. Taking baby steps requires lost of falling. Imagine yourself as a baby. How many times do you think you fell before you mastered walking?
Remember this the next time you fall. Keep getting back up and staying on the path God has carved out for you.